Friday, May 25, 2012

Love is a Verb/5 Love Languages

I'm still hooked on the new John Mayer album....especially track 8, Love is a Verb.
Here are the lyrics:
Love is a verb
It ain't a thing
It's not something you own
It's not something you scream

When you show me love
I don't need your words
Yeah love ain't a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain't a thing
Love is a verb

Love ain't a crutch
It ain't an excuse
No you can't get through love
On just a pile of IOUS

Love ain't a drug
Despite what you've heard
Yeah love ain't a thing
Love is a verb
Love ain't a thing
Love is a verb

So you gotta show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
Show, show, show me
That love is a verb
"Love Is A Verb" as written by John Mayer
Lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC

It instantly reminded me of the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. 

Often we fall into a rut and think that love should just happen.  It should always be easy and fun.  Well, I hate to break it to ya, but LOVE takes work.....why? Cause LOVE is a verb!  Here is your quick Julie synopsis of the book. 

Everyone has a primary love language in which to fill his or her love tank.  The 5 languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, personal touch, and quality time.  You can usually identify your primary love language by the one you tend to show the most often.  After you do a little soul searching, I bet you can identify your primary language and that of your significant other.  The funny thing is, more often than not, they are probably not the same, hence the feeling of "an empty love tank".  You may cook dinner every night to show your love, but all he wants is to hear words of appreciation and affirmation.  Learning each other's love language is the key to knowing how to keep love tanks full. 
The moral of the story is love takes hard work.  Love is a verb.  IOUs don't cut it. 
Gary Chapman also has a book called Love is a Verb , maybe John read it :)  It is a collection of real life love stories. 
What's your love language?  Try this weekend to make a point to (as John puts it) SHOW love :)


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